The Unexpected Gift of Wedding Dance Choreography (a journal entry)

I wasn’t expecting it. Sure, I pour my heart into all wedding dance choreography. Every lift, turn, breath, and beat is carefully designed. 

But lately… I’ve been getting messages and hearing feedback from brides and grooms that’s left me stunned in the most beautiful way.

That hits me every time!

It’s pretty wild to think that what starts as a 90-minute choreography session becomes this full-circle, transformative, life-altering experience: 

• I’ve had grooms who walked in stiff and silent leave our sessions with their chest higher, their spirit freer. 

• Brides who began unsure about their movement stepping into their power, feminine, strong, radiant like a light switched on. 

Together, these couples begin to move together. In sync with a rhythm and nice flow, and not just on the floor, but in their partnership as well.

They tell me their first dance wasn’t just a cute moment anymore; It became the moment of a beautiful transition between ceremony and celebration.

It became he emotional heartbeat that introduced their love story to the room like a cue that said, “Here we are and here’s what tonight is going to feel like.”

It’s so affirming to hear, because as a dancer, I’ve known this magic my whole life. Dance has always been how I connect with myself and others. It brings a joy, and power, sometimes pain, but ultimately a freedom that’s primal and innate. 

It’s how I became me, and honestly, how I see the world. Seeing people dance was ultimately seeing them smile from the inside out.

Through studios, stages, auditions, performances… I’ve evolved and matured my language of movement.

My work has evolved. Yes, I’m still creating beautiful moments with lifts and turns, syncing with DJs, mapping lighting cues with event planners, coordinating camera shots with videographers… 

…but more than that, through wedding dance choreography, I’m helping couples discover how to move together in love. Supporting them as they learn how to listen, adjust, support, lead / follow and ultimately to feel themselves and each other.

And that’s when it hit me: This isn’t just their 1st Wedding Dance, it’s also about embodiment, their partnership, and their ever-evolving love story.

One Bride said it best: "We didn’t have to be good, just open." To be honest, this couple came in the studio a bit clunky and nervous, yet walked out laughing, swaying, and trusting their abilities.

And the bonus is hearing them share how their rhythm off the dance floor improved, too. The metaphor is real: learning how to move together changes how you MOVE through life together.

Another bride shared the processes of helping her figure out what dress style works best with dips, what moment in the music hit hardest, how to keep guests engaged, and how to make sure the energy cracked the whole room open. 

And it’s true, I do think about all of it. The big day deserves that much care. But I’m still surprised by how deeply it lands.

And I guess that’s why I’m writing this.

To remember what a blessing it is to turn movement into memory and help someone fall in love with their body and their story, even just a little. 

It’s a true gift that keeps giving.

And I feel so lucky to be a part of that journey.